Don’t Diet… Live it: A letter to you, from you.

To the one I love,

I know this is kind of odd.  You are sitting at your desk reading this piece from this “Bobby” character and here I am using his article on Boston Fitness Magazine to get to you… but I’ll do whatever it takes because this is the most important thing you will ever read.

I’m writing this to you from the future.  No… not 30, 40, or 50 years from now… but 6 months.  That’s right.  Just six short months.  It is November  2013 and Thanksgiving is closing in real fast with the big holiday season right around the corner, but that’s not why I am excited.  Not even close.

I am excited because your life has changed.  It has changed in a big, big way.  After all those years of dieting, trying new crappy fad eating plans, failed workout attempts and unfulfilled promises to yourself you finally did it.  You hit your wall, took responsibility for your poor relationship with food and simply put….got after it.  But it wasn’t easy.  Now I’m not here to discourage you in regards to the path before you, but more so, prepare you.

The journey you are about to embark on will not be easy.  You will be challenged to stay the course meal after meal, day after day, week after week and month after month.  There will be moments where you falter.  Your intentions will be good but that voice in your head that says “go ahead and skip the gym and indulge in 3 slices of pizza because you deserve it” will sometimes be too strong to endure.  But the thing that is different this time around is that those rare times that you did falter, you got right back on the wagon.  In the past you would feel so defeated that you would just start the cycle again of false promises to start on “the 1st of the month”… and as we both know, those resolutions never came to reality.  This time it is different.

Why is it different you ask?  Well, to speak frankly, you took responsibility for yourself and opened your eyes to your surroundings and your influences.  You pulled the people in your life close that are encouragers, positive influences and cheerleaders for the task at hand.  Everybody else?  Gone.  You got sick of the negativity, the lack of support and the “Debbie Downers” that have seemed to cloud your precious life to this point.  Thank you ahead of time for making that decision because the trickledown effect has been amazing, not just physically but even more so… mentally.

You are going to hire a personal trainer that is going to hold you accountable, kick your ass and become one of your best friends.  Two days with the trainer, two days on your own.  A month later, three days with the trainer, three days on your own.  You will pull, push, squat, lunge, sprint and jump.  Your body and mind will transform through your amazing efforts and your life will be forever changed.  Yes, I know you don’t want to spend the money, but this will be the best investment you will ever make. Ever.

You will also visit a nutrition counselor who will act as your sponsor much like a recovering alcoholic has a sponsor.  Don’t be scared… you need it!  Your counselor will guide you on what foods work best uniquely for YOUR BODY, not some cookie-cutter diet that promises quick results.  Your counselor will take you food shopping, help you clean out your cabinets of all the crap that current occupies your life, be available when you are tempted during those midnight sweet tooth cravings and call you out when you start to make excuses.  This will get emotional for you.  More than you think.  But it’s a good thing.  Don’t fight it.  Embrace it.

Once you start your training and eating foods your body wants, you will feel the momentum build through your consistent actions.  Your focus of “a healthy you” will not only lead to the weight loss that you have been craving but you will be ecstatic and what else this new life will provide you.  Here is the short list of what gets monumentally better for you: taste of food, sleep, sex, energy, positivity… but most of all, your happiness.  And that is what you have been missing.  You’ve missed your happiness and my God, I never want to lose it again.

Are things perfect?  Hell no.  But better.  Much better.  Significantly better.

So to wrap this up (because I know how you hate to read long-winded letters), I just want to say thank you.  Thank you for your efforts.  Thank you for your perseverance.  Thank you for your desire, passion and will.  I started this letter off by addressing it to “the one I love”, because through this whole experience you will learn to love yourself again.  Thank you for that.  I’ve missed you and I will see you soon.

Until the day I die,


Bobby is a Certified Health/Nutrition Coach, Personal Trainer and the Fitness Director at Boston North Fitness in Danvers. Bobby is a nutrition and wellness contributor on many Boston Radio programs including 98.5 “The River” and Mix 104.1, Karson and Kennedy in the Morning.